Archive for July, 2017

Don’t act like you forgot (life after Basketball being my identity)
July 31, 2017

Good morning! Let’s go back, back to when I was captain of my Junior High School basketball team at then WestSide Academy. A fierce, diminutive leader who did not let anyone off easy. I was the confident one who signed autographs on request and my yearbook was filled with comments stating see you in the NBA or you will be a superstar in the WNBA. 

This is not my first trophy but my first experience being taking under the wing of a coach who was more like a father figure in the likes of the late Edwin Rosa. He was every players hero because he went above and beyond for you. He was intense, enforcing and keenly interested in your studies. Was this my first trophy no but one of the most meaningful ones because it was under his coaching. I also played at and for Riverbank, Gauchos, Rucker Park, Douglas, Exodus, Milbank and countless other places I’m from Harlem so you seen me play on somebody court before.

My first trophy was in P.S. 180 elementary school beating out all of the boys in suicide. I was a quiet, timid and learned by sight little girl. But when basketball was the topic; I became a different person I lit up with confidence, strength and assurance after hearing comments before anyone saw me perform on the court. I would hear “you’re too little” when I told my late Uncle Ken he gave me the best advice in life. He asked my stats I told him my points, assists and steals. He replied what about rebounds, blocks, charges and I stated “I am just a point guard Uncle Ken.” He said “no you are a student of the game, I watch you study plays and imitate it to perfection. Chanel, you are not too little to do anything in life. You are a player on the court that plays with passion that is bigger than your actual size.

Work on being an all around player and report back to me with the stats I asked for.” Is this a challenge? Everyone knows I am competitive, passionate and protective with anything I love. Basketball was my first love, besides my first love. During my time of coming up while playing basketball I was always the only female so you know I always had something to prove. Here is a portion of my story life after basketball and all that it has taught me in my chat with Rachel Piazza.

I never went to basketball camp I just watched The Knicks games with my mother and mimicked what I saw them do in the park. I was always the only girl. This is me in Junior High School; West Side Academy. This was right before I received my scholarship to St. Michael’s Academy. My monthly tuition was definitely someone’s rent. I don’t know how my mother did it but she believed in me.

Rachel Piazza: Hi Chanel! Can you tell me a little about your athletic background?

Chanel (Speedy): Hi Rachel! Sure. I played basketball since I was in elementary school (P.S. 180) and back then I was the only girl on the team. I earned several nicknames, trophies, traveled and medals. The nickname that stuck with me was “Speedy” at SUNY Old Westbury I was a play maker and defensive specialist all 4 years. The phrase I would chant to get everyone hype was “SIT!” As in sit in a defensive stance to get the team motivated and crowd into it.

Rachel: That’s great! Do you feel like you were a confident player?

Chanel (Speedy): Thanks! I was most definitely a confident player many underestimated me because I am diminutive but I played with a lot of heart and out hustled everyone because basketball was my passion.

Basketball gave me confidence in life because it made you develop problem solving skills, a broader view for presentation and life tactics that you can utilize on a daily basis. Basketball has shaped a majority of my life because you get to learn sportsmanship, social skills, leadership as a point guard, responsibility as I served as a captain and respect for rules and regulations. It prepared me for life scenarios in a way no other recreation has.

Rachel: Were you confident in your abilities on the court?

Chanel (Speedy): I took pride in being on the court and helping my teammates in anyway I could. I was that energy spark player you needed on the court to change the games momentum, get key steals and stops.

My abilities on the court gave my confidence a boost because being a visual player I would study my opponent and attack their weaknesses. Being that I was both fast, ambidextrous and had a series of moves including an in and out that allowed me space away from my defender. Basketball taught many lessons through wins and defeats but it definitely made me more aware of my self belief, awareness and overcoming the obstacles of people doubting my natural skill and abilities due to my size.

Rachel: Do you think basketball gave you confidence in your life?

Chanel (Speedy): Basketball gave me confidence to play against guys and girls alike who were older, stronger and more experienced than me and challenge them in competition because I knew I was quicker, more disciplined and had a greater basketball IQ. I had some great coaches that groomed me into the player I am. I didn’t have any formal training, attend any camps when I first started out everything was visual and me imitating plays from what I saw watching Knicks games. 

John Starks was my favorite player later A.I. My coach Edwin Rosa saw potential in me and worked on my game. There weren’t a lot of buzz about female athletes when I first started but I followed Sheryl Swoopes when she was in Texas and she was dubbed the female MJ. Later a break through came and the WNBA came along after the defunct ABA and sneaker deals were given and more exposure. It gave me more confidence that it was more than a recreational pastime it could be a possible career.

Rachel: Thank you Chanel!

Chanel (Speedy): You’re welcome. I wish you the best in your present and future endeavors. Thank you for being a beaming light for fighting for women equality.

Life is about wins but learning from your loses no matter what angle it comes from in life. Be it a person, game, scenario etc you have to adjust and incorporate it as a lesson in order to navigate. If I just had the skill of basketball and not honed other skills my life after basketball which ended in me getting hurt practicing in L.A. with the Sparks this would be a where are they now interview. 

Which is similiar to the correlation of Gina Prince-Bythewood’s Love and Basketball character Tanya Randall. I did not want to be Tanya Randall. My advice to every woman in basketball is never go Tanya Randall (chuckles sorry I think in movies and songs that was a Jay Z 4:44 reference). Alongside my vision for myself, my mother and grandmother’s teaching I took education seriously which landed me scholarships and Sallie Mae don’t know my name (you have to sing that in Trey Songz voice LOL). Why do I play all day!

However, honing other skills is important we as women do not make as much as men so we have to work harder, smarter and secure Plan B, C and D until something is fulfilling for financial stability. I refuse to be placed in a box of creativity or occupation. My mother told me I could be anything I wanted to be at the age of 4 and I believed her. I am an entrepreneur, mentor, writer, public speaker, author, media specialist and the list goes on. My name is Chanel “Speedy” and this is my life after basketball. Don’t act like you forgot. I still have a mean in and out to get pass you haha. Don’t forget to smile today!

Chanel “Speedy”

Rachel Piazza is a women’s rights advocate and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu purple belt training at Unity Jiu-Jitsu School in New York City.  Rachel has a master’s degree in women’s & gender studies and leads feminist self-defense workshops for women and girls. Rachel’s analysis on the empowerment of women through martial arts has been featured in numerous online outlets, including ESPN.com.

As a co-founder of Young Feminists & Allies, the National Organization for Women’s first virtual chapter, Rachel’s work reaches beyond the realm of self-defense. In addition to herTEDx talk on sexist language, her feminist analysis has been sought at national conferences, and in digital media platforms on various topics including race, pop-culture, and politics.

Twitter: @rachelapiazza

Website: http://www.feministselfdefense.com

Email rachel at femselfdefense@gmail.com

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What is love to you?
July 15, 2017

After having a great conversation about LOVE! I realized a few things: we all grow at different paces and phases, love loss is not necessarily a loss if you were not ready to commit fully and we all are in need of reaching our full potential of being in love to recognize it if it is ever to resurface AGAIN!

To love, have love for someone and be in love with someone are three different scenarios. You could love someone and not be in a relationship with them. The same as being in a relationship with someone because it became your identity and is familiar to you but later on you realize you are in love with someone else.

In the art of conversation we learn that asking the right questions will set the answers free. Why does everyone love me? Why does everyone fall in love with me? Why haven’t I had a love to my full capacity yet? All are questions that were posed to me. However, I am not the person who was on their love journey to answer the questions risen to me. I was not the person you poured your heart out to in order to understand why love has eased passed you.

I am merely the person to help you seek your wisdom to lead you to the truth. If it was never felt how do you know you had it? If you had it and lost it how does one recognize when it is real again? This is my stop I am going to let your train of thought be processed as I make my exit. You will know once you reach your destination for the desired connection. Until next time blessings.

As your train of thought ran processed his feelings, concerns and personal definition to my posted question was so eloquently answered. This is why Darrøn McM is the feature of the month. Stay tuned as you will get the inside splash of a males perceptive of the topic at hand. See below for the response that blew me away and had me singing like Ciara “I’m speechless/Ahw, you got me speechless/I-I-I-I’m speechless I-I’m….” Yall may think I am kidding because I play all day hence the picture below but I am so serious. 

Splashy readers PREPARE to be left sitting wherever you are in the world with your mouf [aka mouth] ajar after this knowledge chunk hits you TUH. This is why I leave people on read if you arebnot doing your daily mental exercise to workout the kinks to keep me interested. So yall can keep your WYD texts.


I am icing my brain; it hurts when it doesn’t see words formulated into a sentence. Why you ask be-cause I automatically think of calculus and letters equating to numbers. On top of me thinking about what the letter means in a sentence and by the time I figure it out my brain has an attitude with me. I didn’t send the text RELAX! Now I have a headache and the screen light is bothering my eyes I am tearing up in my eyes I have a pack of tissues by my side. See how I am going through it. No you don’t get a response my eyes need to rest sir. Sheesh I really was just in my feelings huh. True story lol. Did you laugh? Did you smile? Did you say only Chanel Speedy? If so, GOOD! I was a comedian in my past dream this is standup on the turn up as you wake up as I splash you in. 


Without further ado I invite you to read the interpretation of love by (drum roll please) a little louder it is his first time or anyone for that matter being featured on my blog. OK perfect give it up and show your love for Darrøn McM!!!!!


Yeah there are definitely many interpretations to what the concept of love is. To me love is a placebo that people use to give meaning to something or to make someome or something feel important or to even fuel your own ego. Especially nowadays people just throw the word around and it decreases it’s value with every passing moment. 

People get addicted to the concept of wanting to be desired or need to get that high of being wanted or needed and be apart of something bigger that it takes over their state of mind and they build up their own fabrications that leads directly to their own failure. So when you ultimately break it down love comes down to using the placebo of what the feeling of “love” is generally fantasized as by society to mask the inner narcisstics inside of us that we try to keep at bay.


If you have a different interpretation of what love is start the conversation in the comment box. Speakkkkkkkkk

Sorry… But Not Sorry by Chanel Speedy

Somewhere someone is searching for you 

in everyone they meet

Sorry I outgrew you

Sorry you didn’t get it on the first try

Second chances are not always granted

Nor go in your favor

That’s life next time don’t take that person for granted the first time

I am highly favored yet seeking teachings of Him the most high

Teaching lines, lines teaching you how to treat thee

Your loss no settling in any category

Not my monopoly

I found better for ME hence there is no WE

Sorry… But not Sorry 

Dust Settles I Don’t/I Love Me/Celebrate a New Chapter I’m being selfish with me/My gentle soul is freed/Sorry… But not Sorry

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