Would you consider co-parenting with a close friend?
May 4, 2019


Once upon a time, there was a poet who oh so eloquently flows to the music while the words escapes him named Samson. He posed a question in his Instagram stories and a wordist who oh so eloquently captures verbiage from what she sees in the likes of Chanel Speedy. Due to her clicking Samson’s story it formed a script and it goes a little something like this.

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Samson: Would you consider co-parenting with a close friend?

Chanel Speedy: Being that our generation doesn’t share the same bond our grandparents or parents may have had? Before I answer your question as I just added on another question LOL.

In this situationship and or arrangement if I may is there LOVE though? The void can not be replaced with another one. Personally, I can’t get involved with someone I am not drawn to as far as a connection. Otherwise, it is meaningless to me.

It was a running joke with one of my guy friends that if we both are single by said age then we are just going to build a family like build a bear. When it was all said and done there was not a connection on that level so in reality it was literally just a joke.

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This is why I don’t like answering hypotheticals because when the time comes will you sink or float? You learn how to swim in calm waters. If a shark is in your rearview are you going to remember your breathing techniques? In that moment, so many factors have entered the equation anxiety, panick and survival mode has now kicked in.

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Samson: I agree with you. The love factor plays a role. I do know friends who love each other deeply; not on a relationship level but I do believe the love and feels matter. I predict friends that end up co-parenting probably end up being together because maybe the bond is special but I do believe if people are jumping into it to fill a void it won’t work. There has to be some level of love there for this to be a beautiful experience. Connection is important I guess if it’s there go for it. But if it’s not nah because as you said that’s meaningless.

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Chanel Speedy: Love is meant to be felt in any relationship unless it is a take away in which it becomes draining because it’s one sided. To love. To be in love. To have love for someone all different forms but the bottomline is still love. Similar to Kehlani I don’t know her situation with her friend but they are happy and she is deep so that may be a deeply rooted love like none other experienced. I think it is beautiful.


To bring a child up in a realm of that forceful magnitude is amazing. That bond makes it more special. The child who you have to water is the feature presentation, the new director and chief in charge everything will revolve around this little bundle of joy. A stable environment of learning, healthy habits and stages of progression should be rewarded because the love is present. I personally do not settle as dust does. However, to each it’s own.


Some are filling voids and it shows because you are not healed from trauma in your life from what you have been subjected to. The cycle continues. Where does end though? Someone has to choose themselves over a crave, desire or temporal pleasure. The lack there of makes it meaningless. Two lost people are going to be lost. If one is found they in return can teach the other. Let’s use a map, google, read a book, go to therapy etc. Heal, be uncomfortable to love, to be and feel loved. I like this conversation and where this is going. This should be read by others just a thought. These are the type of discussions we need to be having. I appreciate your curiousity and I’m glad I had time today to click on your story.


Samson: That was very well said, I like that and I agree love is still love in all of its forms as long as it’s real and rooted from a good place that love will be beautiful but yes many are filling voids subconsciously and consciously. I feel that too, we live in a strange world but bottomline is I can definitely agree if two people decide to do this. It just can’t be for a filling or repacking of a void but for the genuine good of this little being that the two would have to raise. I appreciate you jumping in on this talk and I will for sure have some of these conversations displayed because it’s important. I appreciate you for clicking in and getting involved.

I feel that both individuals have to know themselves and live themselves first.

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Chanel Speedy: Dream big and execute you always had a way with words which drew me to you. Just wanted you to know that. It’s the simple things.

Samson: Thank you means a lot for real. 🌞

Chanel Speedy: You are very welcome.



How about you, YoU and YOU? What are your thoughts on this topic being that love, relationships and family dynamic have changed from the mold our grandparents or parents have lived in? Submit your comments below. #THEYLOVEMYSPLASH


Marsha Ambrosius – Friends and Lovers Album review
July 16, 2014

Hiiiiiiii splashy readers are you as excited as I am the wait is over. The wait is over! Marsha Ambrosius has released her highly anticipated sophomore album Friends & Lovers. This album follows her 2011 masterpiece Late Nights & Early Mornings an album that is still in heavy rotation on my behalf. This time around Marsha gave us an appetizer as to what to expect from our main course Friends & Lovers by releasing the EP Fvck & Love. It was a delightful treat and I will leave it as that beyond the murmurs in my mind saying my sexual appetite was satisfied. Yes I will leave it at that tasteful response and keep my other flashbacks to myself ahaha. I mean with titles such as: 69, Take It and Come what else was I suppose to do. 

Marsha commands the listeners attention right from the start she didn’t waste any time expressing what she wants with a bold, confident and sultry approach as she takes control. Hands down it has to be a Leo thing. Cheers to Leo power. Marsha sheds light on her personal situation in which we all may have experienced in one form or another. 

Song Breakdown

1. Friends & Lovers Intro – The introduction of the tug of war that we will be embarking on within her experience of a friend becoming a lover. 

2. So Good – Her vocal range on this song will blow your mind on this track. She convinced me and made me a firm believer that it was really that good. (insert the lurking eye emoji here)

3. Night Time – This is an easy listen her vocals cruise over the beat of the drums as if she is your personal chauffeur to a happy place of your choice. Her vocals serve as thrill ride in a Bugatti Veyron on an open road with only 2 other cars on the road with the capability of going 235 mph but choosing to drive on cruise control. 

4. 69 – Her flow on this track is impressive as she spirals her voice. The tempo is superb as it speeds up later slows down as the chopped and screwed vocals adds a great dynamic complimenting the background snaps.

5. Shoes – This song has a Motown feel very smooth, simple melody and descriptive story telling. The vocals laid are very soulful. 

6. How Much More (Interlude) – Invite someone to a ooh s*** contest. Will you?

7. Stronger (feat. Dr. Dre) – Marsha drops a cover of Sade’s “Stronger Than Pride” that pays tribute to golden era hip-hop with a sample of Jeru The Damaja’s “Come Clean.” Great remake as two worlds collide to compliment the original.

8. You & I – Very happy and upbeat tone fused with neo soul .

9. La La La La La – It is an easy listen, arranged perfectly and very catchy rendition as it samples the chorus from Minnie Ripperton’s Loving You.

10. Cupid (Shot Me Straight Through My Heart) – Smooth vibes it seems as if it was a sequel to Butterflies and I love it.

11. Kiss & Fuckk (Interlude) – I love the guitar incorporation on this track.

12. Love – A reflection of what love is, accepting and embracing it when it comes. 

13. Run – You appreciate her voice so much more on this track. I love this song such a beautiful ballad. 

14. Spend All My Time (feat. Charlie Wilson) – This is a timeless song with Charlie Wilson as he adds the right element of class and chemistry.

15. OMG I Miss You – This is another one of my favorites it is an unplugged intimate conversation. 

16. Streets of London (feat. Skye & Lindsey Stirling) – Great conclusion to an all around great album. Perfect setup for her next album as it leaves you in suspense. “Home is where the heart is. Where is my heart?”

This was just my take on my first listen and it is impossible to capture the essence of a body of work as great as hers in one listen. However, hands down this is one of the best R & B albums of the year. I am sure I will find more things to love about the album and I will because it will be on repeat. I am looking forward to more from Marsha Ambrosius and wishing her continued success. Go buy her album and support great music. Happy listening!

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